We Teach Others How to Treat Us:
The Power of Setting Boundaries
We Teach Others How to Treat Us:
The Power of Setting Boundaries
Have you ever noticed how you act differently around different people?
Perhaps with a family member, you always end up taking charge or find yourself constantly being told what to do and feeling like the victim?
It's interesting because from a young age, we tend to teach people how to treat us.
We slip into certain roles with specific individuals,
and unless we become aware of these patterns and consciously decide to take on a different role, these dynamics can play out throughout our while life.
FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE THE MOST CHALLENGING!
Family relationships, in particular, can be quite challenging due to these established patterns.
Sometimes, the challenge is so significant that we feel compelled to cut certain people out of our lives.
Yet, have you ever noticed that someone new might enter your life and exhibit similar behaviours, triggering you in the same way as the person you removed?
We're being given an opportunity to confront those old patterns..
to heal and grow from them..
to make different choices.
Recognising that the way others upset us can actually a gift.
It’s like we are being ‘set up’ with an opportunity for personal growth and healing which can bring about a profound change in our behaviour and perspective.
When we grasp that these patterns are invitations for personal growth, we can start playing more authentic, adult and empowered roles in our relationships.
When we change the role we play, it often forces the other person to respond differently.
Essentially, the way we show up when we're with someone shapes how they treat us. It's like teaching them through our actions what is and isn't acceptable.
#1 - DRAWING LINES WITH BOUNDARIES
Boundaries are like the rules we set for how others can treat us. They're invisible but super important. Think of them as your personal guidebook for what's okay and what's not in any relationship—be it with friends, family, or at work.
#2 - MAKING YOUR MESSAGE CLEAR
So, how do we effectively communicate these boundaries? Well, it all starts with understanding ourselves, what we're comfortable with and what exceeds our limits.
When we're clear about that, we can articulate it to others. Remember, it's not merely about talking; it's about demonstrating through actions that we mean business.
#3 - KEEPING IT CONSISTANT
Consistency is key! When we stick to our boundaries, it shows that we're serious about them.
For example, if someone keeps disrespecting your time, consistently addressing it tells them it's a big deal.
#4 - IT'S ABOUT SELF RESPECT
How others treat us often reflects how we see ourselves. If we let people walk all over us or ignore our boundaries, it might come from not feeling confident or avoiding conflict.
But standing up for ourselves is a big part of taking care of ourselves and feeling good about who we are.
#5 - TALKING & UNDERSTANDING
Setting boundaries isn't about shutting people out; it's about healthier relationships.
It involves talking openly and understanding where others are coming from.
Being empathetic while setting boundaries helps build respect and understanding.
#6 - GROWING & CHANGING
As we grow, our boundaries might change too.
What was okay before might not work for us anymore as we evolve.
Adapting our boundaries shows that we're growing and learning more about ourselves.
"We teach others how to treat us" is like a superpower
It puts us in control of our relationships and how we feel.
By setting clear boundaries, staying consistent, valuing yourself, talking openly, and growing, you will create spaces where respect and loving connections can thrive.
It's an ongoing journey that says a lot about how much you value yourself.
The key is to keep learning, growing, and setting boundaries that make you feel great!
Understanding these patterns and making conscious shifts in our behaviour can be transformative.
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If you're intrigued by the idea of delving deeper into this and exploring how to navigate these roles in your relationships, consider joining me for a 1:1 session at the introductory price of only £50. Click here to Learn more.
Together, we can uncover more about these dynamics, discover how they impact your life, and explore how to create more fulfilling and authentic connections.
Feel free to reach out to me for a session—I'd be honoured to guide you on this journey towards greater self-awareness and healthier relationships.
Remember, the power to reshape how others treat us often lies within our own hands.
Let's embark on this journey together.
Much love
Rebecca x
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